Celebrating Love and Mourning Loss
In this post, I reference a Zola article, which you can read here.
The article from Zola addresses an incredibly sensitive topic, one that merges two significant life events: the celebration of love and the mourning of loss. Planning a wedding while grieving presents a unique juxtaposition of emotions that can be both comforting and challenging.
I agree with the notion that grief can seep into every aspect of wedding planning. It's inevitable. Whether it's choosing a venue or writing vows, each step can trigger memories of those we've lost. This is especially poignant when the absent loved ones played significant roles in couples' lives. The article's suggestion to incorporate these memories into the wedding is a beautiful way to celebrate and honor them. In doing so, the wedding becomes not just a union of two people but a remembrance and celebration of life.
However, what resonates most with me is the idea that you don't have to "move on." This is a refreshing take in a society that often hurries the grieving process. By acknowledging grief as part of the process and not something to be sidelined, you allow yourself to feel deeply and authentically. The raw emotions, as emphasized in the article, are what can make the day truly special. They are a testament to the depth of your love for both your partner and those you have lost. Let this grief guide you, go with the raw emotions, do what feels right in the moment. Wherever your emotions are pulling you, let them.
I also appreciate the emphasis on supportive partnerships. Grieving can be an isolating experience, but navigating it together can strengthen the bond between partners. Couples who have faced loss can lean on each other for emotional support and understanding. This shared experience can foster deeper connection and empathy within the relationship.
A unique insight I would add is the potential for grieving couples to create new traditions that honor their loved ones. While the article mentions incorporating existing traditions and personal items, there is room for innovation. Perhaps a new ritual, like writing a letter to the deceased to be read privately before the ceremony, can provide solace and a sense of inclusion.
Ultimately, planning a wedding while grieving isn't about choosing between joy and sorrow; it's about embracing both. It's about acknowledging that love and grief can coexist and that in doing so, the celebration becomes richer and more profound. It becomes authentically you. This journey, though difficult, can transform a wedding into a heartfelt tribute—a day where love, in all its forms, is celebrated.
Some examples of how to incorporate your loved one(s):
Emma & Nick became husband and wife at Top of the Rock, one of Emma’s grandma’s favorite spots and the last place they vacationed together. Her grandma’s presence was felt throughout the entire day.
Photo by Mon Photography
Raelee’s mom was wrapped around her bouquet. She walked Raelee down the aisle and partied the night away with us.
Photo by Raw Shoots